Emotional intelligence

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               *EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE*

There are many definitions for the word emotions. The simplest I found is 'a person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data.
Emotion is also called feeling, mood, etc. The basic human emotions are Anger, Fear, Sadness, Happiness, Disgust, Surprise and Anxiety. There are others.

Maybe like me you grew up with the notion that the emotions you display is characteristic of your personality and that you can't do anything to control them. I remember I'd always tell myself 'I'm melancholy, that's why I always have mood swings, get angry and feel irritated easily'. The definition of emotion I have up there even says that it's an involuntary physiological response, suggesting that *There's nothing I can do about it*.

As young people, we have to come to terms with the fact that we should be in control of our emotions and the actions we take based on them and not vice versa. I have learned by experience that we can determine our emotional response to issues and situations. We have wrongly believed that emotions are reflex states that we have no control over. While that may be partially true, one truth there is is that in many situations, we can master and control our emotions and ultimately our reactions and responses to issues or people.

Our lack of emotional intelligence has cost some of us valuable relationships. We have said things we shouldn't say and do things we ought not to do because we allowed emotions to rule over us. Many times, we could have handled the situation differently.
We can master our emotions by preparing our minds about the realities of daily life. When we know that there is a possibility of coming across people or situations that can get us angry or afraid, we are one step ahead.

Most importantly, which has worked personally for me and a couple of my friends I know is my interaction with Jesus through the scriptures and the Holy Spirit. I struggled a lot with anger (I'm still growing in my anger management though) but as I related more with Jesus, I got better at managing annoying situations and people.

Bottom line: You, not your emotions should be in control
You can learn to manage your emotions and reactions to situations as you relate with Jesus.
Don't believe a lie. You,not your emotions should be in control.

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