Rethink your circle
There's a saying that goes thus "the average of 5 people you walk with sums up your life" we could agree to disagree on this, your choice! but it still remains true.
Interestingly sometimes you have a little setback or challenge and you are scared to share with your friends!! does that even make sense?
You be thinking in your head, If I tell them they will laugh and make jest of me and they will not even take it serious no matter what. What kind of a circle is that?
Friends who can't relate with your situation, who can't understand and sympathize with you in whatever situation you are in, they are not friends at all, they don't merit that title.
You need to redefine what friendship is. There are people you talk to they don't necessarily have to be your friends. And then you have the true people who actually care who you can call friends. Most times you get it all wrong assuming because you talk to someone and you relate well, then you are friends NO! It doesn't work like that.
If need arises and you can't run to them can you even still call them friends? Someone said and I quote, "If you can't solve a little financial challenge with as little as 3 phone calls, then your circle is useless" it's funny but true.
The problem many of us have is that we are scared to loose our friends, we are scared to speak out for ourselves, but the truth is the longer you keep your mouth shut, the more damage you do to yourself.
Except on very rare occasions, you are meant to choose your friends and not the other way round, because if you don't pick for yourself you end up getting what you don't bargain for.
It's easy, you don't have to initiate strife or quarrel in a bid to end the friendship, it's not necessary. If you are Nigerian then just #4 (four Naira) will do the job. A constructive SMS is just that simple. Better still a well composed WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter or even Instagram message can handle it
I could understand that human limitations can hinder some people from trying to help that is understandable, but that is not what we are talking about. If they have the desire to help even without the resources they are worth keeping around. Aside that, when they show nonchalant attitude towards your situation and no desire whatsoever to help or give you comfort, buddy! you are in the wrong circle.
Birds of a feather they say flocks together. If you are the same as well, then you probably are in the right but wrong circle. You could keep that up but just know you won't end up anywhere good. Grades matter, intellectual prowess are good but good character paves the way for you. It opens door you can never imagine. Have a kind and tender heart be willing to help when you have the opportunity.
Take responsibility of your life, and stay on top of the situation, if they can't be at your aid when you need them they don't merit a spot on your friend list, be wise and think on these things.
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